I thought it would be easiest to answer these questions in a new post. So, without further ado, answers:
Okay, here’s one. Of all the ill-advised things you’ve done (and I am guessing that’s about 1/800th of my current list), what would be the hardest to explain to your kids?
I’ve been pondering this. I am quite possibly the most boring person on the face of the earth because I could not come up with one ill-advised thing I’ve done that would be hard to explain to my kids . . . unless you count attending Bible College. I ought to have taken my good grades and my brain and gone to a real university.
How did you and your husband meet?
During the summer of 1985, Jim and Tammy Faye Bakker’s “Heritage USA” theme park hired college students to work for the summer at Heritage USA. My husband and I were each hired from our respective colleges. I met him there after my roommate and good friend pointed him out to me. We dated part of that summer, broke up over the fall (I actually sent him a “Dear John” letter) and then we dated again the following summer. He’s from Texas; I’m from Washington state.
His family still can’t believe he married a Yankee.
You are a pastor’s wife and a mom of four. Everyone must want a piece of you. How do you maintain your sense of self?
How do you put up good boundaries? If anything, my boundaries are too solid, too protective. I just don’t bow to the pressure to be a particular way or do a particular thing and I’m blessed with a husband who backs me up. Once, in a job interview, church members asked him about me and my abilities. He said, “You aren’t hiring her. You’re hiring me.” And he refused to discuss it further.
I maintain my sense of self by writing. If at all possible, I try to get out of the house alone once a week–I go to movies frequently and visit thrift stores. I also read a lot which helps me think and give me perspective.
What is your favorite place for a vacation with the family and the place you would go if you could go alone?
We hardly ever go on vacations with our family, but we’ve really had fun at the beach when we’ve gone. (The Pacific Ocean beaches.) If I could go someplace alone . . . well, that’s hard to say. I like cities a lot, but I love the ocean, too. I dream of going to the ocean for a whole week alone . . . . long enough to really relax.
I am awed and entertained by all the things you write about. How do you keep your house in order with so many things going on there? Do you have housekeeping help? (I realize this is a very tacky question. I would totally understand if you didn’t answer!)
I am by nature an organized person, so even if my house looks a little cluttered or dirty, the underlying structure is in place. Every once in a while, I have a spontaneous organizing streak or decluttering frenzy–this summer, I cleaned through all my kitchen cupboards and over the weekend, I sorted through my entire scrapbooking desk.
I have pretty low standards for housekeeping. I thought about hiring someone to help me, but I just can’t do it. It seems too frivolous. So, I just keep up as best I can. I clean in bits and pieces because I don’t have a whole day or even a half-day to devote to cleaning . . . unless I clean on Saturday, which is my only “day off.” I leave the house on Saturday, if I can. That helps me stay sane.
Now that you’ve had experiences in life and been a mom and; such, if you could choose to have a dream career outside of the home, what would you choose to do?
I wish I’d gone to nursing school and been a labor and delivery nurse, or gone to midwifery school and been a midwife. I was lucky to meet a midwife as a young woman who influenced me to have two homebirths–I wish more women were able to have that experience. I also wish I’d studied journalism and/or creative writing in school. What was I thinking? (I went to Bible College and thought I’d be a spinster missionary somewhere.)
So what made you decide to tell us that your daughter’s name is Grace (and by the way, once I knew that, the name just totally fit!)
I didn’t plan it in advance, so I can’t tell you. I just decided to say her name. I’ve become accustomed to not using my children’s names due to privacy concerns. On the other hand, I don’t suppose it matters too much, so I may throw in a name here or there, depending on my whims.
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I may have lost my mind because I have no idea what you’re talking about. How about a clue?
Who are the kids in the pictures at the top of your blog? I recognize your daughter and the last picture must be you and your husband. The others must be your sons but which is which? And who is the dark haired little girl?
I tried to find silly photos of my family . . . from left to right: me, as a young girl; twin A; twin B; youngest son; daughter; twin A plus twin B; youngest son; me and my husband, in the week before our wedding. I have a penchant for pictures of preschoolers–almost all the photos seem to be of kids at age three or so.
What does your husband think of your blog? Does he read it? Does anyone at your church know you have a blog?
He didn’t read it for a long time and even now, he reads it infrequently, I think. He only started reading it after I started the ClubMom blog
. He told me that he was trying to give me a private space, which I appreciate. No one at church knew anything about my blogs until after the ClubMom blog started. Then, I figured I’d become more public and have gradually let slip that I write a blog. I know that a few people read it, but not many. It’s been strange to go from feeling very anonymous to feeling aware that people I know might read here.
What’s your most embarrassing moment…EVAHHH?!!?!??
I was just telling my husband last weekend that I don’t have a good story to use when this question comes up. I mean, one time at Weight Watchers, I leaned over to pick something up off the floor and farted loudly, unmistakably, but that’s hardly a worthy story for this question! I must block embarrassment from my memory banks because I can’t remember much. Oh! In middle school, I dressed up like a hippie for the Gong Show and sang The Merry Minuet
and got gonged. That was embarrassing.
What are some of your favorite ’sneaky Mom’ tricks that make your kids think you have the All-Seeing Eye?
I do have an All-Seeing Eye. What do you mean?
(I can’t think of anything at the moment . . . but I am very good at picking up clues and noticing odd behavior.)
MY turn?! Ha! hummm something witty, chatty, and interesting. Not right now. So I ask how are you doing?
Still quite sneezy. Allergies. Bah.
What was by far the most difficult thing you ever had to do out of love?
Huh. What a question! I suppose the most difficult things I’ve had to do out of love have to do with letting people make mistakes and not intervening. People I love have had to learn some lessons the hard way, which is tough to watch.
Besides fear itself, what do you most fear?
I fear damaging my children somehow by being a horrible mother.
What is your current guilty pleasure?
What one moment in parenting do you really wish that you had a do-over?
The 100th day of kindergarten when I accidentally made my son late to school–he had been chosen to be the helper, which is the biggest, most exciting event in kindergarten, but because we were late, they chose someone else. I had to take him home because he was so upset . . . he told me on the way home that he would never forgive me. That’s the first thing that comes to mind.
Knowing your kids as they are right now, what do you think they’ll be doing as a career in their future?
Twin A: Chef or cook.
Twin B: Teacher? I’m not sure.
Youngest son: Doctor.
Daughter: Too soon to tell . . . she’s only 4.
What is your most proud (in a good sense) moment as a Christian- something that you feel that God looked at your doing and smiled?
When I bought that homeless woman food at the grocery store awhile back.
What’s your favorite color? Mine’s “blue– NO! RED!! Ahhhhh….” (Name the movie and you win one of the donut holes I’m eating. I, of course, will eat it in your honor.)
Purple. I don’t know the movie! Drat!
Are your twins identical? If so, how long did it take before you could tell them apart?
No, they are fraternal. One has blue eyes, one has brown eyes.
Cindy K. Says:
I think you mentioned that you homeschool your twins, but your other boy goes to public school? Is this true? And, what led to this decision?
They attended our local public school from kindergarten through fifth grade. One had academic struggles, but kept getting moved on to the next grade without really mastering his work. The other, as it turned out, was being bullied and socially ostracized. We didn’t want them to struggle in middle school and so we brought them home. They are still enrolled in the public school, but do school through a virtual academy. Our younger son, in third grade, is well-suited to public school and gets excellent grades and has lots of friends.
We aren’t black-and-white about homeschool versus public school versus private school. We try to make individual decisions that meet the needs of our individual kids. In this case, our oldest kids needed more attention and nurture than the public school could provide. (And they never, ever want to go back. They love doing school at home.)