Comments on: I Quit

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 16:24:23 +0000

Oh, I have SOOOOO been there (yesterday, in fact!). I’m so glad to read your post – and the comments. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one feeling guilty about my parenting, and hoping to do better today than I did yesterday. Only by the grace of God.
Rachel in Idaho
Sent from She Laughs at the Days

By: carrie

carrie — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 19:06:06 +0000

You sound just like me. I feel so unqualified to be a parent. Judge and jury all day long! And the messy rooms? Oh yeah! A source of ranting and railing that should be illegal. My oldest is only 10, and I can already tell we’re going to have a dandy time when he’s a teen. Lord help us, every one.

By: Joy, of course

Joy, of course — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 04:09:48 +0000

Oh my! I linked over here and I am so glad I did. Your post is so funny, but not funny, because it’s me. I have four children and I am constantly over-reacting. I wrote my own post just this week about how guilty I feel when I turn in to psycho-mom. I think I am quitting too.

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By: Kelly Patton

Kelly Patton — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 19:24:53 +0000

Here is the thing which my sister was kind enough to explain to me. We do not overact over the little things for no reason, it is because when we ask the kids a question or to do something they tune us out (think the Charlie Brown teachers voice. My sister explained further it is because what we deem inportant is not important to them. No that just got my panties in a bumch, but she is right. They do not think a clean house, bedrooms or yard work is important. Even if there are bribes attached to getting it done.
So,like you I “am trying” hard not to over react to the little things. But, I have also developed a “hearing problem” when they need something, and that has seemed to help. Also saying no when they want me to do something for them.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 23:42:38 +0000

Thanks Mel! I really needed that post. As a young mom, when I freak out or overreact I tend to tell myself, “this wouldn’t have happened if you had been older when you had children!” (I was nearly 20 when I had my first) but now I see that it’s okay. Even mommas who started after they were 20 still have freakouts.

By: marlaquack

marlaquack — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 17:03:50 +0000

I could have written that post.

By: Kismet

Kismet — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 16:37:19 +0000

Who among us hasn’t experienced this to one degree or another? See all those ‘You could be in my house’ responses?
It happens.
I am a great one for over-reacting and then going back and applogizing to my kids. It is humbling and soothes both them and me.

You do good, nay great work. Keep it up.

~K!

By: Just Me

Just Me — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 07:10:53 +0000

Hey there…I don’t know if it helps, but this is what I’ve found difuses the situation. When I used to get into the old, “You never told me/asked me/ etc.” routine – I then got on the roller coaster of ‘whose to blame’ or better yet, ‘someone’s lying and it’s not me’! Let me tell you, nothing good comes of that one! Beleive me, I know..I’ve had more screaming matches at my kids – convinced they are trying to make ME beleive I’m losing my mind! So…now, rather than get into a no-win situation, what I say to them is this, “Well, you MAY have said it to me, but I don’t remember.” And then if they try to tell me that I ‘said this’ or ‘that’, I’ll tell them…”Once again, I’ve told you that I don’t remember hearing about this, so I’m abviously NOT going to remember giving you an answer either – so all deals are null and void. We’ll talk now..and the decision made now, stands.” Well, it’s worked wonders, because they all know I don’t like making snap decisions, so if they are REALLY talking to me about something, they’ll make a point now of waiting til they have my full attention – not talking to me while I’m on the phone, the computer or watching TV. I’ve told them, from now on, there has to be ‘eye contact’ or deals dont’ count. Working wonders in our house – try it! And yes…the way you described your situation – you could be living in my house!

By: Typingfool

Typingfool — Sun, 29 Jul 2007 03:35:52 +0000

Oh Mel, you sound like me! I’m still assuming it gets better. My 26 year old daughter, who still lives at home because she’s in school, just told me tonight that she got the apartment she applied for a month ago. Gee, you would think this might be news you want to share with your parents wouldn’t you think? Especially since you live with them. I quit a long time ago, but nobody listened…