Comments on: Compare and Contrast

By: Lateaches

Lateaches — Thu, 18 Jan 2007 14:56:46 +0000

hey – just found your blog and I’m on the floor. I’m the queen of just surviving. How can we not be? Me, the “church glue”, the pastor’s wife … and raising kids … and keeping the pastor together behind the scenes … and I work full time … and still home-school one of the kids … and you want my kitchen floor to be clean? A LONGGGGG time ago a friend said, “you mop the kitchen when your zories stick to it” gave me the freedom to give up the “Martha complex”. So go, girl – I love your honesty, and look forward to reading more!

By: susiej » Archive » Gulit and Motherhood, Part I

susiej » Archive » Gulit and Motherhood, Part I — Tue, 16 Jan 2007 03:15:01 +0000

[...] Is coming to terms with the shortcomings of being a mother a matter of forgiving ourselves for being human, as I read on Chicken-and-Cheese? Or is it deeper than that? Is it more like the words of Melodee, “I really did think I’d be a better mother than I am.” She sums up guilt so perfectly in her post, and you can follow this link Actual Unretouched Photo to read more. [...]

By: qtpies7

qtpies7 — Tue, 09 Jan 2007 16:30:21 +0000

MOST kids do eventually start wearing deoderant and some even start to shower WITH soap! We’ve actually had to start sniffing our kids getting out of the shower to make sure they used soap and shampoo! LOL We’ve even had a nurse call me one time over a kid who stunk, you know soccer without deoderant, and she said HER daughter went through that too and it drove her nuts being the school nurse and she couldn’t get her daughter to bathe, lol.
My oldest is 17 now and showers all the time, wears not only deoderant, but also smelly sprays and colognes! That he buys for himself even!
Yes, its girls that bring that on. I’m hoping my 14yo will get some interest in hygeine soon.
Hang in there, mediocre is good, perfection is too stressful for everyone.

By: She-Ra

She-Ra — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 13:39:53 +0000

How funny… check this post at my blog ( http://purplescrapbooks.blogspot.com/2007/01/evidence-found.html ) and you will see how crazy and naive I was. The note was written 10 years ago (my oldest just turned 7). Let’s just say that I was wrong… so very wrong. I still crave absolute obedience but rarely get it. I’ve learned to settle for pretty-close, most-of-the-time obedience. And general mediocrity in all manners housewife/mom.

By: Jennifer Gross

Jennifer Gross — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 08:10:58 +0000

De-lurking to say, I’ve been feeling the same way, and my daughter is only 4! But in only 9 months she will start full-day kindergarten…have I squandered these precious beginning years out of sheer exhaustion or lack of creativity? Even now she doesn’t talk much about her time at preschool…next year will I be losing nearly the whole day to the mysteries of kindergarten and “I don’t want to talk about it, Mama”? (and then on the the next question SHE wants to ask ME).

But Mel, in your case, if you have half the neighborhood kids voluntarily hanging out at your house, you must be doing something right. Kids don’t congregate where they’re not welcomed and loved.

By: MissKris

MissKris — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 04:07:28 +0000

I always feel like the “old timer” when I comment here, because so much of what I say is in retrospection with both of my kids now adults of 28 and 30. BUT! I had to add my two cents here and say that, from where I stand now on the Cusp of Life…what really, REALLY matters is if they’re happy.

By: Laura

Laura — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 03:30:30 +0000

I’m just hoping my four-year-old (also a daughter) will voluntarily quit wetting her pants. From where I sit, I think you’re doing a great job.

Laura

By: Melody

Melody — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 23:25:38 +0000

Hi. I am sure you are a great mother! I am a teacher at a school where many of the children live in poverty and have parents who don’t even get up to get 5-year-olds ready for school and who throw a fit if they have to come pick up a sick child. I see children who wear the same dirty clothes all week and wear clothes either several sizes too small or several sizes too big. It’s really, really sad.

By: ann adams

ann adams — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 16:10:30 +0000

We’re very different in some respects, you and I, but we do share the same dreams for our kids.

If we can raise our children to be decent citizens, we’ve done our job well.

I hope your kids and mine will remember the love.

That being said, I watched the entire opening of the House of Representatives, much with tears in my eyes, thinking “why did it take so long”.

By: Barb

Barb — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 15:35:23 +0000

I used to have higher standards as well, but after awhile, one realizes that some things are just more important than others, and no one really cares anyway.

As your kids get older and they start reminiscing about things that happened when they were little, things they did, just little traditions, etc., you’ll find that you did a great job with them. My kids remember things fondly that I have completely forgotten, so obviously those little things mean a lot to the kids as they are growing up. You’re doing fine.