Comments on: The Naked Truth

By: Lisa Raven

Lisa Raven — Sun, 04 May 2008 15:44:26 +0000

Melodee,
As it turns out, I was mad as a hornet a few nights ago because my son informed me at 10:00 pm that he did’nt have any clean socks for school tomorrow. I choose to do his laundry because I live in a tiny little house and as such have made it a LAW that no kids are allowed in the landry room, EVER!! This is where I go to cool off when I’m angry or to read a little, or just need a few minutes of quiet time. Anyway-Iwas silently thinking, “Man, do your own F@*&$!g laundry!”. Since I was sitting at my computer at the time I decided to type my thought into the address bar of my browser just to see what might come up. I found your blog and it made me laugh. I went into my sons room, kissed him and gathered up his socks. THANK YOU,
Lisa Raven
Denair, CA

By: » On Tolerance - Actual Unretouched Photo

» On Tolerance - Actual Unretouched Photo — Mon, 30 Oct 2006 23:46:16 +0000

[...] You can accuse me of a lot things–setting back the feminist movement, for instance, by ironing my husband’s pants–but please don’t accuse me of intolerance or assume that because I’m a Christian I’m a party-pooper. (I’m a party-pooper because I’m an introvert, which has nothing to do with my religion.) [...]

By: jennifer_starfall

jennifer_starfall — Thu, 30 Mar 2006 12:34:00 +0000

i do all the laundry.

because i hate the way he does it…

By: Mel

Mel — Mon, 13 Dec 2004 19:55:00 +0000

Hillary,

Don’t be silly. Your comments are always welcome here, even if they do provoke me to feel all defensive and thus to overreact in my comments to comments.

By: Mel

Mel — Mon, 13 Dec 2004 19:55:00 +0000

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By: Hillary

Hillary — Mon, 13 Dec 2004 18:59:00 +0000

Poor me! I have been electronically spanked! And here I thought I was extolling your virtues and supporting you for all your hard work and efforts to raise a family. For the record I don’t think that describing how supportive your husband is every once in a while is disrespectful in anyway to his privacy. Perhaps you don’t realize it, but a lot of your “jokes” make him look like a total boob! As for this being your Blog…duh! I guess I mistakenly thought it was also an opprotunity for your faithful readers to champion your cause. A mistake I’ll think twice about before posting again!

By: Tina

Tina — Mon, 13 Dec 2004 13:55:00 +0000

When my husband’s side of the closet is bare, then I say, “Guess you’ll have to shop for some new pants!”

~Tina

By: Eyes

Eyes — Mon, 13 Dec 2004 13:35:00 +0000

I loved your post! I think you are hanging on the image of the 1950s housewife too much. Have you seen Wife Swap (ABC or NBC) and Trading Spouses (FOX)_. If not, you must watch it! You will see you are NORMAL, and a totally good housewife — probably way better than most

I try hard and believe me, next to my mom I fail too. She is constantly deep cleaning. I don’t do so well at that one.

By: Trish

Trish — Mon, 13 Dec 2004 09:58:00 +0000

I found your blog through Suburban Lesbian and I have to tell you that this post is TOTALLY me. Except that my husband has become a husband who does laundry, irons his shirts and cooks dinner because I’m so lousy at being a housewife. Why he keeps me is beyond me… unless it’s because I’m dead sexy. Heh.

By: Mel

Mel — Mon, 13 Dec 2004 04:56:00 +0000

Hillary said: “However, every time you write an entry about how little he helps you around the house or with the kids I want to bop him over the head with a big bottle of cleaning fluid. For cying out loud, unless you are exaggerating, this man does nothing around the house.”

My reply: Hillary, I actually thought I was writing about what a rotten housewife I am, in the Martha-Stewart sense of the word. The fact that my husband doesn’t iron was sort of imperative to the story, but I wasn’t writing about him. I was writing about me. I do my best to protect his privacy in this blog and I only drag him in to make a point or a joke. I could extol his virtues, describe how he read a book about marriage this week, explain how he stayed home from work at the last minute because I asked him to, tell all about him driving the kids to school, taking them to various events, reading every night to the youngest, playing with Babygirl . . . I could tell you how he got up at 5 a.m. with our twins for two years so I didn’t have to . . . but this is not about how great he is. I’m not trying to paint an accurate and complete picture of him, so apparently I’ve given the wrong impression.

I don’t think equal division of labor is important or necessary to make a marriage and family work well. If it were that important to me, I would have picked a different type of man. But him not cooking and doing laundry are not deal-breakers for me. I am the one at home–it only makes sense that I do most of the household chores and childcare, too, for that matter, at least during this stage of our lives.

And we’ve been married quite happily for 17 years, so I think we’re doing all right, even though I have come to realize what a dismal housekeeper I am.

Anyway, I appreciate the comments, but don’t feel sorry for me! Feel sorry for women married to men who beat them or who gamble away their money or who divorce them for a younger, thinner woman!

This is my journal and as such, I will complain here and there about the daily grind of housework.